Girls Night Out

I actually got invited out somewhere this weekend and Im terrified. First of all I have nothing to wear. I mean pretty sure you dont wear yoga pants and a TShirt when you go out. (Side note perhaps another reason why I dont have friends?!). Second is - its to go see a band. Loud. How can you talk to someone if you go see a band or go to the movies? You can't - so it's not really abouthanging out with these people then is it? It's just about doing something. I don't really want to go hear this band. My daughter says I have to go because I need friends. Will this really help me though? Ugh. What should I do?

On the side note again - how do all of you people look camera ready like ALL of the time? I don't have time for that!

Seriously though. Am I the only one with difficult kids? Or are the other mothers just as scared as I am to talk about how awful their kids are because everyone else' s kids are sweet and have no issues?

These are the times I could really use a friend. Especially one who might be going through the same stuff as I am! My eldest is soon to be 13 - need I say more? Or perhaps I do. Perhaps I am the only one in the world with such a sassy, strong willed, stunning, vicious, dismissive daughter who knows better than me already on everything and whom I am terrified to have to let go the apron strings of already at such a young age! What if she gets hurt??

Socially Clueless

I think one reason I don't have friends is that I am just clueless socially.

I don't know what to say to people!

For example last night saw someone I haven't seen for about 6 months and she joked baout how she had been busy expanding, as in her weight - she made a motion with her hands, like she was getting a fat belly.

How do you respond to that?

A full 12 hours later I am thinking I SHOULD have said Noooooooo you look great!! As always!

Right? I mean she did look great, and not at all like she had gained weight, so not even a lie.

But instead I said something stupid like "I don't know what to say about that"

I mean, I meant I had weight issues of my own to deal with, like she wasnt alone in these concerns. But it came out all wrong of course.

How on earth do you get better at social responses anyway??

Unfriended

My daughter had a bit of a falling out with one of her friends.

They've sort of moved past it - they are civil still, they are just not BFF's anymore I guess you'd say.

I saw the mom yesterday and when I got home, realized I hadn't sen anything form her in ages on facebook.

Yeah, guess what - apparently she has unfriended me.

Because our kids are not besties anymore.

Yeah, I'm sort of hurt even though I shouldn't be.

Meanwhile an acquaintance of mine had added me to one of her sales groups. You know, where they constantly try to sell you crap?

It's so annoying! I didn't even ask to be added to the group!

I thought I could quietly remove myself from that group - no harm, no foul right?

SHE ADDED ME BACK IN!! Like almost right away!!! I guess at least I'm good for being a number on someone's sales page.

An Invitation

I've invited someone and her 2 kids over next Sunday. I really like her and this will be the third time I've invited her to visit ad she has actually come.

Is it weird she never initiates an invitation?

She's about to move pretty far away from me, so that doesn't help.

How do you go from inviting someone over with their kids to actually being friends?

The mother I texted about the accidental PETA ad showing?
She responded! It's just the text somehow never went through.
I was utterly terrified to mention it (how silly am I?) but I somehow managed to bring it up in conversation about the message and it went from there.
Looks like I had not made a terrible gaffe this time.
Maybe there is hope for me afterall!

At the end of another text-versation with another mother, I also texted that my daughter had just mentioned that her daughter's teacher had inadvertently shown her class the banned PETA Superbowl ad and that all of 5th grade was apparently aware of it and talking about it.

She never texted me back. Not even about the other conversation we were in the middle of...

Should I have not said anything?

If it was the other way around I would want to know!

My 5th grader taught me something. I hadn't even known there WAS a banned PETA Superbowl ad.

So of course I googled it. Definitely not that teacher's finest moment!!!

My daughter told me that the gift I had given her friend's mother for hosting a team get-together was thrown in the trash. Apparently it was too creepy. And I want to cry because I put so much thought into it and it hurts me that the thought wasn't even appreciated. And honestly just tell me you don't think you'll use it and give it back to me. I'd rather have it back than have it in the trash.

So the mother had talked about her difficulty with getting her cat into a carrier to go to the vet, even when he was ill and really needed to go. I felt like it was in my wheelhouse - cats are my job. I know it's not the most appealing looking thing, but a grooming mask, put on a little cat face for 2 seconds is enough to grab them and put them into a carrier. So I had got her one of those, just for emergencies! I also got her feliway spray to spritz into the carrier to calm the poor fella down on his vet visits. What is so creepy about that?

I did redeem myself somewhat apparently with 2 cat toys. But the mask and the spray were thrown in the trash. Not only that but apparently thrown away with a good case of the heebies jeebies over how creepy they were.

I'm sorry for trying. No-one else bought a hostess gift.

You're either reading this thinking OMG no wonder she has no friends, or maybe a few of you out there can relate, I don't know. You tell me.

Creepy Gift